My little Crush

I still have a Crush on my Husband

Yesterday my friend came over and while I was cooking dinner and we were gossiping about the usual day to day events in our town I couldn't help but stare out the window and watch my husband as he was doing yard work. 

She laughed at me about it, but I thought it was the cutest thing to "spy" on him. 

When I was young we used to "Spy" on the neighborhood boys and watch them play and rough house with each other. We would laugh about how cute they were and notice all the little things our crushes did. 

I think that is an important thing to keep in your marriage. Never let the day to day life together blind you form all the cute little things about your spouse. Don't forget why you fell in love with him. Notice every time he makes your heart skip a beat. 

Don't forget what your life was like before you had him in it. And always be thankful for him and cherish every moment. 

Don't forget to tell him how cute he is. Sometimes I will go up to my husband and whisper "Can I tell you a secret?" he always laughs and I say "I love you." 

He thinks its funny that I call it a secret, but I like to remind him every day that I love him more than ever. 

The "To-Be" List

The reality of what to expect for the Man of your Dreams.

We all grow up dreaming about our prince charming. What he will look like. How he will act. What he will do. And how Perfect he is going to be.

And we make a "To-Be" list. A list of expectations or standards that our prince will excel with flying colors and anyone who doesn't is sidelined.

     

Wether you know and admit it or not you have one too, every woman does. But instead of giving you an easy determination of wether this current guy is your Soul Mate, it can actually hinder you from finding one.

The first thing to remember is that every prince wants a Princess. You will attract what you are. He doesn't have to be Worthy of you if you aren't worthy of him. So before you say "I want a man who is attractive, fit, outgoing, kind, organized, etc…." You need to make yourself attractive, fit, outgoing, kind, and organized. 

The second and no less important thing is to realize that You are NOT Perfect. And you never will be 100% Flawless in every way. So you can NOT expect to find a man who doesn't have a flaw or two. Yes you should have standards, and its good to make a list of things "You would Like your prince charming to have." But it all reality there will be at least a few things on that list that they guy will fail at, no matter who he is. The "To-Be" List is more of a grading sheet. As long as he gets a high enough percent he should pass. If its a 100% or Fail test Every Single Person will fail. I promise you.

You have to decide which things are an absolute deal breaker, and which things you can learn to live with. Because you are going to fail at a few of his "To-Be" expectations as well.

Before I met my husband I had an extensive To Be list. I told myself "I will know that he's the one if…" and I had a lot of will dos and will nots. But when I met him on the second date I realized he hit a couple "Will nots" and missed a few "Will Dos" But he still had a lot of amazing qualities and things to offer. 

So go through your "To-Be" list and make sure you hit all the expectations you want to hold him to. And next time your "Grading" a guy, remember that there are a few things every person will miss, and make sure your not failing him for things that aren't that big a deal after all. He may make up for the things he lacks with other positive qualities you didn't think about.